Results of Dinner Party, And Dealing With the Modern Woman I

You know how life sometimes grabs you by the nose and decides that instead of writing your blog post, you're going to be doing other things? That's my only explanation for not posting about the dinner party sooner.

The dinner birthday party went over really well, though I didn't really sit down and eat. I figured, since there was no server, it was the gentlemanly thing to help ladies in long dresses by getting their food and drinks that way they wouldn't have to walk up and down the stairs in their long ball gowns. One of my lady friends however told me to just sit down and eat after a while. She told me that gentleman did not mean server, but honestly, I didn't want to put them through the trouble.

Also, note to self and others: in summer, the last thing you do while getting ready for a party is dress for it. I went to the path near my house to gather some wild daisy flowers for my lady friend's birthday and it was too hot for walking in a long sleeved shirt with tie and vest. I was sweating too much. I figured things would get better when I was at the party, but I still was sweating because I was moving around and helping out, as well as dancing.

The dancing went over quite well too. I danced with each of my lady friends. Although, one didn't seem to want to dance, or this is the only explanation I can come up with. She would stop dancing right in the middle of a song. I wasn't sure what to do. So I asked her if she was sure she wanted to dance, and she said yes, so we resumed. But it happened a couple of times. I was very confused, but went with the flow of things.

Now, onto the modern woman part of this post. One of my lady friends was getting too close for my comfort during the middle of the party while we were in a big group hanging out. The other two lady friends involved in this expedition were also there. I was uncomfortable, and tried to show it in hopes that she would stop. But she didn't. She found it very amusing instead. So, naturally, the women in the room started to give me advice on how to be a gentleman in this situation, because I wasn't sure what to do. They believed I should be more forward and full of myself. One was convinced that gentleman weren't introverted at all. I'm not sure I can agree with this statement. But if it is true (I'll have to look into it), then I'm not sure what I'm going to do. I'm a very introverted person (it's kind of why I write). I try not to be so uncomfortably introverted so I can socialize, but I'm still not sure how to find a way to be a gentleman in that situation if it arises again.

It's been a few days since the party, and I have bought one rose for my lady friend when I went to visit her again to show my affections. Turns out, price chopper sells single roses. Though it's not the best for your dollar, it's possible. I still open doors for my lady friends whenever I can, but when getting out of the car, they seem to have forgotten that I will gladly get their door for them. I don't want to stop them, because it almost seems rude to make a lady wait for you to open her door when she feels very capable and would like to be out of the car. I'm still not sure how to tell them that I'll get their door for them, or even if they found the help annoying before or generous.

Anyway, right now, I'm in the processes of cleaning my room and making it decent for visitors. I have work to go to in the morning, so I'm going to get some shut eye now. Perhaps after work I will pick up books from the library about being a gentleman and see if they can help in any of these issues. Till then.